Relationship Coaching

A conscious relationship is...“One that fosters maximum psychological and spiritual growth; a relationship created by becoming conscious and cooperating with the fundamental drives to be safe, to be healed, to be whole.”
—Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love You Want

Why People Seek Relationship Coaching

Today, many of us are looking for more from our intimate relationships, wanting our significant others to become our “soul mates,” sharing not only in daily responsibilities, but also in a deeper connection with our inner thoughts, feelings and spirit.

Sadly, many of us have never seen a highly evolved relationship modeled. We carry into our adult lives early conditioning from childhood that limits our ability to attract or keep healthy love. Moreover, we are bombarded by media images of relationships based solely on chemistry or emotions, when in actuality mature love is more than feelings. True love is also an intention, a commitment to extend yourself for the another person-a give and take dynamic, sometimes even sacrifice. Other times, love includes balancing receiving from with leaning on the other, as well as accepting and supporting the other's vulnerabilities.

Currently, about 40 percent of the adult population is single. Nearly 58 percent of first marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is also high, ranging from 40 to 78 percent. Most of us are not taught how to embrace the transition from being part of a couple to standing on our own. In my book, "Becoming Single Again…Inner Journeys of Rebirth", (available later this year through this website), I teach the process of maneuvering from relationship with a partner to a relationship with self. It is from learning self-love that we ready ourselves again for a healthier new partnership, if we so desire.

Benefits

Singles and couples can learn and release their deeply held subconscious beliefs that have held them back from manifesting healthy relationships. 

Also, many mid-life couples who have been in committed long-term relationships are looking for ways to reignite their partnerships after years of raising children and/or career- building. These couples could also benefit from learning new relationship skills.

Engaged couples and newlyweds also benefit from learning skills to design visions together for their long-term relationships.

Fees

Relationship Coaching is priced at $150 per hour for singles and $225 per hour for couples.  A minumum commitmet to five sessions is required.  Thereafter, monthly check-in sessions are recommended to help clients focus on their new, healthy visions we create for their relationships.

Techniques

Recently, I became certified in relationship coaching for couples, using a breakthrough model from of Imago therapy developed by Harville Hendrix. By guiding clients through a process of discovery, I help them DESIGN (versus repair), relationships. Unlike therapy, where the counselor is the expert, in coaching Gail works in collaboration with the couple to co-create a vision to move the couple forward.

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“OK.  I’m a hopeful romantic.  I keep hoping my next romantic partner will be `the one’ who comes baggage-free.  Or at least with just a light, carry-on bag of life’s stuff.  But meeting up with a couple of love coaches helped me realize that I’ve got to fix my own little wagon first.”

THE LOVE COACHES

By Anonymous

“You’ve got to love yourself before someone else can…”

 “Ya, ya, ya.  What else is new?”  When you’re in the cocky stage you dismiss valuable basic human truths as tired old chestnuts.  Denial helps you pitch them aside like so much stale candy.

             
Ah, but when light does indeed dawn on Marble Head it’s time to call in the pros for a check up from the neck up.

             
Life coach and author Gail Jones of Topsfield specializes in relationship issues.  Her topic list includes Attracting the Right Relationship, Deepening the Relationship You Have, and Mid-life Confusion.  She’s in the process of completing her second book, Becoming Single Again…Inner Journeys of Rebirth.

Jones helps clients to “rewrite the script.”  She uses a proprietary tool to clear the subconscious beliefs that sabotage us in romantic relationships, as well as in the career and financial arenas.  To clear negative beliefs, such as “I am not lovable,” Jones uses collaborative and intuitive skills to help the client identify repeated patterns that keep showing up in his or her life.  Jones then helps the individual customize what she calls “allowing statements” that condition the subconscious to reconnect with a sense of personal power.  Integrating an allowing statement like “I allow myself to love and be loved” increases the chances of attracting a healthy mate.   The secret?  When you like and love yourself you become more attractive in the eyes of others.