April 11, 2007
Volume One
Issue Two

Like many of my clients, I find myself this spring coming alive in news ways. The reflection and inner soul work I did this winter--when it is more comfortable for many of us to hibernate--allowed me to sprout new growth.

From expanding my seminar business and clarifying my market niches to creating new professional affiliations through networking, everything is blossoming. Similarly, many of my clients who felt stuck are now manifesting new possibilities.

For many of us, spring also brings longings to be in love or to renew the love we have in our lives. This month, I will share with you the six core beliefs of self-esteem from which you can build self-love--the greatest gift you give another, personally or professionally. When you function in the world as a person who loves himself or herself, you attract higher quality relationships, better work choices and even more money.

We are taught through the book and movie version of “The Secret” to ASK, BELIEVE and RECEIVE, all of which are important steps to creating mental shifts for attracting new outcomes in our lives.

However, to ask someone to “believe” they can have something in their lives that they have never before experienced may not be as easy as “The Secret” has portrayed.

Often, people must first do some inner transformational work to create new neural pathways in the brain to allow for the new concepts to be welcomed.

We long for what is familiar. To shift patterns and embrace change, we need initially to lessen the fear so the brain no longer sees the new concept as different and therefore potentially dangerous. Taking small action steps on a consistent basis is one way of creating new pathways in the brain to attract more positive outcomes. Building support systems with like-minded others is another avenue for moving forward in new ways.

Most importantly, people FIRST often need to know they DESERVE the very things they are asking for. Those who have lived with a perspective of scarcity and competition for a long time, for example, will need to push through resistance and clear limiting beliefs from the past in order to manifest differently in the future. Many of our beliefs about ourselves were formed during the first seven years of our lives.

The most important action anyone can take to improve their careers, finances and relationships is to create a new foundation of self-love. According to Dorothy Corkille-Briggs in her book, Your Child’s Self-Esteem, these are the six core beliefs children need for healthy self-esteem:

Because none of us were perfectly parented, we may not have developed these core beliefs. Yet, it is not too late to learn to create and integrate them, and also to teach them to those we care about.

If you find yourself in a situation which is not working to your benefit, or are frustrated about not creating the outcome you want, you might begin by looking at which of the above beliefs is lacking in your life.

Note also that creating a new foundation of beliefs takes time, compassion, attention and often the care of another nurturing soul willing to guide you forth. If you have believed yourself to be unlovable for forty-five years, for example, you are unlikely to overturn that false belief instantly. Rather, you will need to work steadily, through positive self-talk, nurturing actions and wise counsel to create a new belief of knowing you are lovable. Whatever you want to manifest externally, must be created from within first.

BELIEF TIP OF THE MONTH:

Pick one of the six core beliefs from above, and ask yourself, “What action could you take within the next twenty-four hours to begin developing that belief within yourself?”

For example, if you want to know that YOU MATTER, and are important, might you make it a priority to create time for yourself and your dreams. How can you include “me time” in your daily schedule?

Then, expand the concept of “I Matter” beyond yourself. Think about which people in your professional and personal lives matter to you. Tell them so. You may thank your boss for mentoring you, tell your children how much you value them for being the unique people they are, or show your life partner that you appreciate his or her presence in your life.

COMING NEXT MONTH:

May’s feature article will be “Attracting Right Relationships…Personally and Professionally.”

To contact Gail:
(978) 887-1911

gail.kjones@verizon.net

www.supportmatters.com
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